I know where you are at! I have been living with these anger issues .....god since I can remember and as far back to my mom telling me as a toddler I was always angry and just frustrating to be with...I have taken anger test w/ the pdoc and he said hes had hardened criminals not score as high as I did...He was scared for me and the people around me, like you I usually take the anger out on myself but things still scare my family. meds help, but your right EVERYTHING is a trigger and I still at almost 30 have a hard time dealing hope things turn around for you regardless just know your not the only one "insane"