Thank you both...
I don't know if he meant to manipilate me or not.. I think he saw me as a shoulder too cry on... I have told him that I can't be his friend for the moment. That he can't use me while he is emotionally unstable.

Marjan - i have a date with a new guy on Saturday night.. I was not giving my fun up LOL.

The bugger of it all is that the hope had gone.. and he's put it back in my head.. I HATE that.. hate that he is in control of my emotions...

I will continue to move closer to closure.. I was almost there and then he does this!
So frustrating.
I told him to take "me" out of the equation and sort out his s**t.