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Originally Posted by ECHOES
So, I am thinking she is projecting. These are her thoughts, not mine. Or maybe this is counter-transference. I don't know. But now I wonder.. is she angry with me? is she disappointed in me? is she feeling we are getting nowhere? is she bothered because I am so closed off and she doesn't know much about me? have I worn out my welcome?
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It sounded like projection to me too. Very good questions.
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I think it might be scaring me because I can't do this relationship from a distance, I can't pull away into my turtle shell. I have to be there.
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Do you want to put more distance between you and pull into your shell? It sounds like, no, you want to be close, so I'm just wondering why you mentioned doing the relationship from a distance. It sounds like she doesn't want you to do that either. If anything, it sounds like she wants you to be closer, which I got from her seemingly projective statements about how you may be feeling that you haven't made a lot of progress or how you may be disappointed.
When my T says things like that, it makes me wonder if he is comparing me to "most clients" in his mind and I am somehow doing therapy differently or in an unusual way. Then I start asking him about other clients and how therapy proceeds with them, and he doesn't want to talk about them, but wants me to do therapy in my own way. So, I can get mixed messages!
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yikes. what if I create the end?
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It doesn't sound like you want to at all, so you won't, right?
Good luck with the session tomorrow!