Zooropa, I'm so glad you found that post and that it is soothing to you.
It really is awesome that she said that.
I also can't help but think that all this stuff aournd time limits and phone calls are not just obstacles to your therapy, but are really part of your therapy process.....to help you learn to identify and deal with the triggers...I can imagine it is exhausting, because it is hard work.
But you are doing a great job. Please don't get discouraged!

It sounds like you certainly know more about DBT than I have, but what *I* got from reading Tay's posts, was that trauma work doesn't take 12 weeks, but the Exposure therapy part of trauma work takes 12 weeks. (Which is a good thing because it sounds really intense. )
Tay herself said that she is still doing trauma work in talk therapy after several years. So maybe that's the key distinction, between talk therapy and exposure therapy. (Anyone feel free to correct me if that's wrong)
It may not be in Linehan's book, but it maybe it is taught somewhere in DBT T school - otherwise wouldn't it be a strange coincidence that both your DBT T and Tay's DBT T each came up with a 12-week rule on their own?

I'm glad DBT has been so helpful for you. I am really intrigued by it, especially because of how helpful you and Tay Quicky have said it is. When I was inpatient for my eating disorder, we did a lot of CBT and DBT stuff in group therapy. But since it all seemed to be lumped together I never really grasped the difference.

Anyway, sorry for rambling. I really hope this gets resolved for you soon.