I just had the most intense experience. I am friends with a couple who are engaged, I knew they were having a rough patch but tonight "Bob" told me he thinks "Betty" might be bipolar. From what he described (for example, EXCESSIVE spending, suicidal thoughts etc.) it sounded about right.

The funny thing is I don't know these people really well but I have known them for a while and usually I can spot familiar things in people who are depressed, anxious or bipolar. Apart from a recent display of persistent irritability she never sent up any red flags for me.

I told "Bob" the of basics of bipolar, how it treated and gave him a list of things he CAN do, like help with having a consistent routine. I told him to carefully talk to her father (they all live together) and see if he has seen a pattern or any extreme moods (she is 26 so I'm guessing if she's really bipolar there have been previous episodes). I gave him a couple copies of the mood chart I use that he can fill out in case it's helpful to anyone later. I also told him to not argue, confront or try to reason with her when she is manic and to take care of himself.

The fiance is a really solid guy who loves her, he wants to learn more and wants to help. I told him to check out this forum or call me if he has questions. And I offered to talk to her if it looks like this is really is bipolar.

I just got really involved in other people's business and i have a tendency to do this. I don't know if I can help her but I think I can help him deal with it. I don't know, do you think I went over the line at all?