Hi Yoda,

Reading your posts I think there is more than one issue.

One - the abuse from your uncle
two - the relationship with your mom and her abuse
three - your own boundaries and self esteem.

They are all complex and I think once you focus on the third one the other two will loose their strength of impact.

I think it is very significant that your mother is denying your reality. To me - she is not a mother. Forgive me. Mothers protect and believe their kids. Why is she still in contact with your uncle... I am so sorry. It must hurt so much. I do not think she has a selective memory. I think she deepens the abuse and in that way coludes with him. I would be very angry if my mom wont believe me on something like that and wont do everything to protect me. But then again - I would have told her straight away that this is happening... I am not criticising you. I am criticising her. And I think when you work on your boundaries maybe think of them also in contex of your mom.

I do not think being anywhere near your uncle, even in the same house when he is in another room, is a good idea. Please stay safe and look after yourself.