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lynn P. · Apr 22, 2010, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by serafim_etal

One thing that jumped out at me is that in both instances "N" wasn't the one to make the comment/statement. When I was in elementary school and jr high both, kids who were my "friends" (used loosely) said inappropriate things (not sexual, but things like I said I was going to break a teacher's neck, for example), and I never said anything remotely similar to that! I did however get in trouble several times...exactly what the "friends" wanted. At least three times these things were done right in front of me. So I wonder if "N" is really saying these things, or if he has some friends who are really not friends, and they are actually the ones being inappropriate.

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This is an excellent point and I've thought about this which means I can't forge too hard because this is 'here say'. The 1st time I let it go after the teacher told me it was a misunderstanding. The other day this came from a different boy not in N's class. If it was the same boy quoting N then I might be inclined to think he was trying to get N in trouble. Either way it's 'here say'.

The teacher called me yesterday and she said she passed my note to the Principle. I'm going to call in a few minutes to speak with her. English Teacher made a good point about this not just being a school problem - because it happened on the bus. Yesterday when my daughter got on the bus the boy said "you're not supposed to sit near me" - when in reality he's not supposed to sit anywhere near her. If it ever happens a 3rd time - I will have to be really firm with the principle. It's very difficult dealing with 'here say' comments because I don't know who's telling the truth.

I feel very discouraged that this kind of talk is even happening at this age - very scary.