Ripley - I know what you mean. I have been his scapegoat most of my life. Then in my 20s, he re-married. Now his stepkids are his life. He does for them what he would never do for me. I haven't spoken to him for many months after our last big blow-up. It's difficult being cut off from my only remaining family, but I can't take his attitude any more. I know it's the right thing for me, but it's still painful. I feel guilty because he's old and has cancer. I know the stepkids and step mom think I'm a horrible person, but they don't know anything about my childhood except what Dad's told them. His perspective and mine are sooooo different. Anyway, just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this...