One thing I noticed was that N didn't jump up and deny or act shocked either time someone else spoke "for" him, which kind of includes him, in my mind, regardless of whether it's hearsay or not. All three boys behaved inappropriately but I'd be worried about what they're "learning" from the whole thing.
For an 8 year old boy to say "I want to have sex with you" and they can't know what that "is" because they are not through puberty, do not have erections for sexual purposes, etc. means that an adult has said that in their hearing, maybe only on TV, but the meaning from when a healthy man says that to a healthy woman, what "happens" (I find you attractive, I want you, etc.) is a positive emotion but here, in an 8 year old's misunderstanding, it's out of place/the wrong way to express interest in another person. But who's going to teach him all that? Just making him think he said a "bad" word/phrase, can't educate him about what's wrong with the whole thing.
To me, it's not really about sex and wrong words, it's about the child watching something he cannot, by definition, understand "correctly" no matter how hard he tries and no one (his parents) have stepped in to make sure that doesn't happen again. I think the boy's understanding of "like" and "interest" in other people adn how to communicate one's feelings has been damaged/skewed and isn't being addressed.
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