thanks all for your input... I know I am unhappy Tatyana because he is very controlling and it seems like I am always doing something the wrong way. maybe I shouldnt drink at the end of the day. maybe its not such a big deal. I see a new T next week and will run this by her. until then I may have 3 drinks at night or a few beers after my bath. I know it upsets him because his mom is true blue alchoholic (by her own admission) and he doesnt want me to turn out like her but its a major difference. to me at least. its just this big issue right now. I want a few beers and he says no. and its the one thing I stand up to him about since he controls everything else (how much I spend at bath and body works and how long im there for example)....