Do you feel like your therapist is unable to "own" other stuff she does that has a negative influence on you? It seems like an apology on her part might be helpful - but that you might have to ask for it directly, too. I hear that this is really difficult for you, and I get why it would be. It would be difficult for me too, as I sometimes nitpick what my therapist says (not that I feel like you're doing that). I know that I sometimes throw out comments without really thinking about them, but if that's the case and I get called on it, I do try to think through why it is I said what I did and repair the connection that might have been damaged.