Well, I am sorry you are dealing with a controlling man. I know only too well what it feels like and how demoralising and stressful it can be.

The thing is - why do you put up with it? This behaviour is abusive. Why is he telling you how long you can be in the bath... and why is he telling you how much you can drink?

When my ex was drinking and I hated it I told him during moments when he was not drinking how the drinking affects him, me and the relationship. I never said 'dont drink' etc. However - when it got very bad and he became aggressive I did say to him he was alcoholic and when he took a drink in his hand I d leave the room.

I think, for your own safety and well being - stop drinking. Or at least - drink less. Drinking control you, just like he does. Drinking distorts your judgment and clouds events. What needs to happen for you to be able to take control over your happiness?