lol, the healthy people get our cues. it's the unhealthy ones that don't and why we need to become adept at boundaries. i have had some opportunities to practice as of late too. it can be hard to say no but when i do it is quite a relief to have people back off. it is worth the effort. i find that the more insistent types need more clarity. they just don't get subtle hints. maybe tell your neighbor that you will stop by his place when you are up to visiting--and then follow thru so he doesn't think it's just a brush-off.