I have spoken with her about it LOL.. and yeah she's not impressed.. but understands that I have to do what feels right for me.
I don't know what's happening and I feel in total limbo most of the time. My ex-boss Tom says that they look 'normal' at work.. so maybe he is just playing me.. or he's putting on a front to her. I just don't know.
I would be 100% better if he hadn't sent the stupid messages... but now that he has I want to know everything that is going through his mind.