They always make excuses, it someone elses fault i.e. mine for playing mind games with people (something he'd always say), my therapist for brainwashing me, the people who used us, my family, whatever. But never his. And he would go on about this crap that when he was my age he was working, etc. etc. and I'm just a selfish f* up c* for my behaviour.

I was so scared of him I wished he'd hit me or something just to draw attention, because people never look at what they can't see. Physical scars heal but mental ones don't, and I don't like to claim any abuse as any worse than another.
I can't get in any mild tiff with another person, my triggers from people's anger can last in excess of 2 days, it's probably the most extreme of all my triggers. Even a slightly snide comment from someone that would be brushed off by another person will have me shaking like a leaf and wanting to commit suicide because I feel like such a hopeless person.
People gasp at sexual and physical abuse, but rarely raise an eyebrow for mental and verbal.