There is always the... Make her answer approach.

Do you need me to call someone ?

Would you like me to find doctors that might help you ?

Would it upset you if I called you on my lunch break ?

Do you want to go and do something silly this weekend ?

Will you check out this website I found ?

Offering specific help might give her ideas on what she can do to get help herself. Of course, going overboard with it and being stuck up someones backside can cause just as much harm as good. You seem to understand all of that.