Our (my wife's and my) dearest couple friends ("Husband" and "Wife") who have been like family to us for 30 years are splitting up. Husband had multiple affairs and has now fallen in love with another woman. We are devastated as is Wife. She is a wonderful woman. My therapist (who herself left her husband of 46 years) opined that I am being judgmental in my disappointment and criticism of Husband, who confided in me about the other woman and has not yet told Wife. Wife wants to go for counseling despite his multiple affairs and doesn't know it doesn't have a chance because of other woman. I would love not to be judgmental as I love them both. Am I "wrong" to be upset with Husband? Therapist tells me I don't know their marriage but I do know them both very well -- even though I did not know about the affairs. Isn't there a fine line between "judgmental" and "caring." I personally think that one of the problems with society is that anything goes, there is too little shame. What do others think?