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Originally Posted by birdcrazy
...I wonder what the new people I just met think about me. I feel if I ask them up front, they won't tell me the truth...
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They could very well still be waiting to see what the "truth" is for them. I was wondering -- if one of them were to ask you what
you thought of
them, would you have a satisfactory answer right away? Would you feel you were telling the whole truth or keeping something back?
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I feel like I want to act as normal as possible.
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Uh-oh! I'm pretty sure it's been precisely those times when I've been trying hardest to act normal, that everyone else has been surest I had to be crazy.
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I don't see anything unusual about them, except maybe the fact nobody wants to socialize much, and even though I am bad at it I want to and it's driving me crazy.
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What you just said could probably stand some more looking into:
They apparently don't want to socialize much but you're still looking to them as the ones you want to socialize with? Because they happen to be closest? Because they're a bigger challenge?
You say you're "bad" at socializing (it's not clear in whose opinion or by what standard) but you want to anyway? What do you get from doing it, in that case?
I was thinking you'd probably get more opportunities to socialize with other birders than you'd know what to do with. Back in my birding days (such as they were! lol) we'd sometimes spend the day doing a count or something. Then, when I was already good and tired and ready to head home, all the counters from that area (between 50 and 100, of whom I knew only the 5 from my team) would get together and celebrate over dinner. There I'd be, thinking birding would be more fun if it weren't for all the socializing I also got corralled into.
As I recall, the main advantage for me of socializing with birders was that they didn't think it was weird for me to be interested in birds -- no weirder than for them, anyway.
