Googley-YES! He included you in the abuse by making you the referee. You were a child; how was it your job to keep your mom calm? You were exploited and used by your dad...in fact, (JMO) i think he abused you more than she did, by making you be the one responsible for it all.
You couldn't be allowed to be a kid, you had to take care of your own mother's problems. I call "FOUL!" ((((HUGS))) theo