((Atreyufreak)) - although inadequate, all I can say is, so sorry you're suffering. All sexual assault cases are horrible and every case is unique and painful. I think most people think rape is when a stranger grabs someone and violently SA's them. It's easy to hate someone like that. I agree there is no difference between rape from a stranger and incest. Unfortunately with incest, family members are forced to be accountable for their loved ones and also admit where they made mistakes by not protecting their child. As a parent I'm responsible for my child's safety. A parent would need to admit they failed in keeping their child safe.

If I had a son or if anyone in my family were to hurt my daughters, I would make them pay. I feel sorry your feelings weren't/aren't validated. If your family knows, why do they expect you to be around him?

There's a case in Michigan right now - where a father shot his teenage son because he discovered he raped his daughter. I don't advocate killing anyone, but I can understand his rage and I don't think it should be swept under the carpet. I blame the parents and the perpetrator. Children should be taught when they're young that you don't touch or let others touch their private parts. The mistake most parents make is only teaching about strangers and they blindly trust relatives and friends. I don't trust anyone with my girls. I also tell them if a nice relative or our nice neighbor or friends touches them - to be rude, loud and get away. Often the biggest threat is, that sly nice relative or friend who is clever, charming and manipulative.

You have a right to be angry and I hope you have told all your family members. I'm sorry you weren't protected as a child. I'll pray you'll be able to heal and be the person you're meant to be.