Thanks both of you xxx
Tatyaya stay strong and keep reading... that it my escape from the world and I can bury my head in a book.. just to forget the world around me... and Yoga helps a lot too.
I had a response to from my T (I emailed him about what had happened...) I'd like to share it here

Thanks for letting me know. This would have been a big event for you, to say the least.

I know what you’re longing for, but I’m afraid that I don’t see anything different in what Mark is doing now to what he’s done to you before. I don’t mean that to be a criticism of him, but it seems to me that when he feels confused he becomes quite selfish and will look for someone or something that will make him feel better, even if it’s only for the short term. I’m glad to hear that you’ve set yourself some clear boundaries here – in that he must be free of Lisa before you’ll consider anything. I’d like to suggest that he would need to do quite a bit more than that before you risk your future and your happiness with him again, but we can talk about that next time if you like. In the meantime, I hope you’ll keep doing what you’ve been doing so beautifully for quite a while now – being true to yourself, living with integrity, and not giving control of your emotions to anyone who doesn’t deserve it. Of course, the only person who deserves that privilege is you.