I met the love of my life, and lost her. so im not sure if this is for me or for her, maybe someone out there can tell me.
we'll call her K, shes 24 intelligent and attractive and interesting and i fell in love with her almost from the beginning, im quite a bit older than she is at 49, i know its a big gap, but the connection we had together seem to make that not a problem. she lost her father at the age of 10 and has always gone for older men, bit of father replacement going there i suppose, but thats not the problem.
K lives with her friend who we'll call J, J is bisexual, K is definately not interested in J in a sexual way at all. But they are the very best of friends. After K and I were together for a while and started to discuss the future, marriage babies etc J began to get jealous and i could feel J's attitude towards me change, a word here,a comment there, there was a definate change in atmosphere. K's attitude began to change soon after and within three weeks K said that she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore, she said "i just want to be me" and we split.
K was always very sexual and had a lot of partners before we met, while we were togeter she was very faithful.
Now K has gone back to casual sex, one night stands, with no emotional involvement. they go out together to bars, K will find a chair and sit, J will talk to every man in the bar being quite flirty and eventually one of the men will come over to where they are siiting and start chatting. J then moves away and leaves the man chatting to K, at some point in the evening K will have sex with the man, either before they reach her home or at her home. it looks like J is her pimp, no money is involved, but i think J is providing K with sexual partners to keep there friendship alive. If J provides enough casual partners for K she wont need to have a relationship with anybody who might have an effect on their friendship.
i'm still in love with K and dont like to see her unhappy, i think she is unhappy. does anybody out there have a clue what going on here.