(((( Atreyu )))) I think the reason people act differently is because with rape, a family can join together and be angry together at someone outside the family unit.

With incest, the family is divided. It is devistation to the family unity on many levels. And many family members will deny or minimalize the truth in an effort to keep the trauma from destroying their own sense of safety. If they had to accept the truth, it would take away their pretend world of "everything at home is fine."

Hon - thanks a ton for asking this question. Typing out the answer I just gave you allowed me to just have a MAJOR breakthrough in my own trauma.