I know this is probably way over-asked, but I have to get your opinions on this, it's driving me a little crazy....

I came out as bisexual to my parents at the beginning of May and they completely pulled away from me. Things are better now, but that period of having them out of my life allowed me to really examine my relationship with them, especially my relationship with my mother.

Now, mothers and daughters always fight. I know that, and I know I've not been the easiest child to deal with. But the more I talk to people about it, the more I've been told that some of the things she's done to me and said to me aren't within the realm of "normal" mother-daughter confrontations. I'm a pretty sensitive person, so it's hard for me to parse out what's me just overreacting and what's her being genuinely over the top, what is her just being kind of controlling and what might be considered out of line.

So.... how can you tell? Where does a behavior, an action or a word cross the line from being "hurtful" and into the realm of "abusive"? I just don't know.