I think he has made up his mind Belle. He has decided not to make up his mind about anything. To play people to keep the focus on Mark.

I have been reminded of something for a while so maybe I will share it now. I was in my last year of highschool and heartbroken from a breakup with my boyfriend when he went away to university. He would often come home for weekends and would inevitably end up at my door drunk after a night out with the boys. By the following Tuesday I would receive a card in the mail apologizing for his conduct. This went on for months and each time it broke my heart. Finally I didn't let him in. I told him I wasn't going to be used by him anymore with his 2am booty calls. He needed to stop playing my broken heart. I wanted him to still love me and to want me back in his life. He never came back again.

My point in telling the story is to suggest that some times people will do whatever they can get away with. They will play all sides as long as they can. Until I made up my mind I was giving him permission to use me. Once I made up my own mind about what I needed from him he could no longer play me. I lost him but I had already lost him but at least in the end I had owned the outcome. I missed him.... even the 2am knocks on the door but it was worth it to block the door and take back my heart. He too seemed unable to make up his mind about us until my boundaries forced him to decide. He choice his frat boy freedom over his home town sweetheart. I was spared the game playing and got on with my life.

Funny side story..... some 10 or so years later when I was high on success with my design business a mutual friend told me my old boyfriend was single again and living in the city. He had been briefly married to a girl he met at university. I took the bait and called my old boyfriend when I was in the city on a buying trip. He seemed a little tentative but invited me up to his highrise office overlooking the bay. Very impressive. He told me all about his accumulated assets from his rich business executive lifestyle and then he dropped the bomb. He was getting married the next day. OMG. Get me out of here. No wonder he was tentative. lol. Just goes to show that one really can't ever go back. Things change for a reason and one is wise to not look back.