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Originally Posted by muse
I know this is probably way over-asked, but I have to get your opinions on this, it's driving me a little crazy....
I came out as bisexual to my parents at the beginning of May and they completely pulled away from me. Things are better now, but that period of having them out of my life allowed me to really examine my relationship with them, especially my relationship with my mother.
Now, mothers and daughters always fight. I know that, and I know I've not been the easiest child to deal with. But the more I talk to people about it, the more I've been told that some of the things she's done to me and said to me aren't within the realm of "normal" mother-daughter confrontations. I'm a pretty sensitive person, so it's hard for me to parse out what's me just overreacting and what's her being genuinely over the top, what is her just being kind of controlling and what might be considered out of line.
So.... how can you tell? Where does a behavior, an action or a word cross the line from being "hurtful" and into the realm of "abusive"? I just don't know.  |
I don't know where you are but Im in the USA. here the word abuse means different things to different people. Example I would consider getting slapped in the face abusive but someone who is into disciplinarian relationships don't consider getting slapped or a spanking abusive. in some states its considered abusive to spank a child and in other states it is not considered abusive for parents to spank their children, in some cultures its abusive for a man to make every decision for a woman and in others its a mans right to do that for a woman, In some countries it is abusive and illegal for a woman to use birth control and in other countries it is a womans right to use birth control. in the USA it is considered abusive to do female circumcisions but in other countries its part of the rite of passage into woman hood. in some countries its abusive to force someone to have sex but in other countries thats a mans rights in marriage. in some places its considered child abuse to marry a child under the age of 18 and other places the woman has to be 21 and other places a man can marry a teen as young as 12. in some countries parents arrange the marriage of their daughters at their birth or shortly there after so that when the girl reaches puberty she goes to her arranged husband.
you can find out what is considered abusive where you are by checking with the police, a lawyer, therapist or doctor or research the topic for your state/country at your local library.
