hi shadow-- your post stated: "Also, I spoke to my husband about this and he said that what my friend meant by "free spirit", is that he will grow up to be gay. So apparently, not beating your kids will make them gay. Well, I guess I wasn't physically abused enough..... "

I forgot to note your posted mood as "Goofy".
Perhaps I took your post too seriously and replied based on non-goofiness.
My bad.
-peace and good luck