Thanks girls

I think that I find it hard to stop contact with him because I still love him - as sad as that is....
He knows I am dating I made that clear to him when he wanted to catch up that I couldn't on so and so night because I had a date...
I waiver from being really strong and wanting nothing to do with him to wanting to see that he is alright.
Everything you girls have said is true - I am in a limbo again but it's different to the past - this time he can't really hurt me with his decisions - he can only hurt himself.
I am putting a time line in my head on 'playing his game'.. okay so it's a long time line but it's a way for me to cope.. he has til the end on May to figure out what he wants.
Tatyana I am glad that you feel stronger. As each day passes it will become much easier - take it from me LOL as long as you stick to what you want and let the outcome arrive then everything becomes clear.