Hitting a child, spanking, slapping, kicking, shoving, etc is wrong! I am strongly against it. It does not teach the child anything but humilates, hurts, causes shame, guilt and panic. It destroys self esteem and self confidence and damages relationships and trust.

If your kids has done something you do not like - explain why you do not like it. Show a better way. Talk in a severe manner and tell him/her that even when you are angry you still love them. The kid then has an internal incentive to change, respects you and themselves.

You do not want to reject your kid the way you were rejected. In my view - people who spank their kids commit a crime against humanity.