This happened with me too. Can that not happen even if nothing happened to you? I know something happened to me, but I don't remember most of it. I have nightmares and flashbacks about it. But before I had my first time (like a year or two before), I went to the gyn and she told me I wasn't a virgin. At that time, I couldn't understand how that was possible. Her and the nurse kept asking me if I was active and I told them no over and over. It was only like a year later, after I stop going to see my father that I started having nightmares about the abuse.

Anyway, I think in all three cases this was abuse. Jammin's for obvious reasons I already explained; Reb's because she dissociated and suppressed the memories (that says it was traumatic) ; Allme's, because she said it was "rudeness" and told him to stop, that says she didn't want it to happen, unwanted touching is abuse. My sister is only 18 months older than me, and I can tell you she has power over me. Being the same age doesn't mean it can't be abuse, they just have to have more power and authority.