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Originally Posted by chaosrob
the thing is it doesn't seem to matter, I talk to all these people but there is no connection there. I am unsure what I am doing wrong, I suppose that it's one thing to act like a friend and another thing to make the emotional commitment of being a friend. But I do not know how to go about actually developing a friendship, it is not an easy thing for me to do as I usually just follow whatever seems to be the most logical choice. I am not really anticipating being able to accomplish my goal in a timely manner. As it is I suppose I will keep doing what I am doing and see if by some sheer twist of luck I connect with another person.
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Rob~
I don't think it's a matter of you doing anything "wrong". There really isn't any right or wrong. I think you're much more accurate in thinking it's all a matter of timing....to find the right person with whom you simply "click" with, (whether it's something casual, or more intimate...don't really matter).
I don't think you should focus on the actual development of said friendship. Be receptive of it. Allow it to happen. Don't deny it when it does present itself. Patience and acceptance is a key as well as the allowance of it's direction. If you limit yourself to a specific destination toward what or how you think it "should be", then you only limit yourself and confine yourself to what is minimal.
Just be yourself...if it's meant to happen, (with that specific someone), then it WILL happen so long as you are receptive, honest and communicate.
And considering your SPD, yes, it will require a special someone who is capable of being understanding and supportive. However, that does not mean finding that person is impossible. You've said it yourself, it's a matter of timing, (and I soooo agree).
Shangrala
