(((((Vicki)))))

One of us insists that we begin this post with the ancient joke, "How do I cope ?" "With great difficulty." Sorry for warped Aussie sense of humour. The system is in a defensive mode atm.

This is how Raven Girl manages, as far as the system can work it out. More may follow.
For a start, you may need to know more abt Raven. She's about 17 to 19, she's rather reckless & careless of the body sometimes, but not as much recently. She's often negative, & still gets quite depressed.
Anyway she manages by saying lot's of different stuff to herself, she learned to do this from the bigs, although she thinks the bigs are too stuffy for words & she doesn't like Seven either, they argue now all the time.
Sorry, strayed off subject a bit there lol.
Back to the topic : Raven tells herself this stuff to help her cope, different bits for different times :

She says the bigs must have been too stupid to know that what they were doing would harm her.

She says, well THEY must have been screwed up, not me.

Sometimes she lets herself hate them for a while.

She says, she musn't hate herself bacause she wouldn't even exist if she hadn't been born from pain, so it's not her fault she exists.

She says, NEVER BLAME YOURSELF, none of it was your fault whatever others in your system, or people iirl say.

She says, well if they were too stupid to love me, that's their loss.

We don't know whether this will help at all, but hang on in there Vicki, PM any time, you or any of your others.