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Originally Posted by isadora
He tells me he cares about me and he loves me with all his heart and he whats the best for me
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... he doesnt trust me i need tips to prove to him he can trust me and that i love him with all my heart
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And earlier you were saying:
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Originally Posted by isadora
...he wants me to be a good girlfriend. What kinds of things I can do to show him that I'm a good girlfriend.
also how can I prove him how much I love him.?
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... he give me a last chance to prove him that im not a hoe..
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I'm afraid this relationship sounds like a one-way street to me. It seems as if:
- You're always the one having to prove something to him.
- He's the one who gets to say if your "proof" is any good or not.
- If there really is something you need to learn about how to be trustworthy or how to be a good girlfriend, he's not going to help you learn it.
- He's nowhere near as interested in being a good boyfriend as you are in being a good girlfriend.
- He wants to keep you around and turn you into a good girlfriend not for your benefit, but for his.
You could choose to take your chances, be the best girlfriend you could to him and settle for whatever he's willing to give you in return. There's no guarantee that he'd give you what you really wanted, nor that you'd be happy for long with what he did give you.
You could even choose to do whatever you could for him just for the sake of doing it, whether or not you ever got anything back. Something tells me that's not where you are, though.
Or you could choose to stand up for yourself, assert your boundaries and tell him: you'll trust him if he'll trust you. You'll agree to work on understanding him if he'll agree to work on understanding you. You'll work on being a good girlfriend to him if he'll work on being a good boyfriend to you while you both work on being straight (with yourselves and each other) about what you need from each other.
Or if he's not willing to work on the relationship with you, you could find someone who is.
I was wondering, Isadora -- does either of these articles do anything for you?
Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
The Tell Signs Of An Abusive Relationship
Sounds like you may have some hard work and difficult choices ahead of you. Good luck!
