Well, for me my original abuser told me everything is my fault. He still does. He told me I caused the mold on his walls. I caused water damage to his house. I caused all these stains (from mold) on the carpet. I made his dog vomit, because I put black beans on the floor. It's my fault the dog chewed on things, because I left things in his reach. (He chewed on the furniture). I'm causing a health hazard to my son, because his dangerous belongs are all over the place which I tried so hard to get most out of his reach (my father is a hoarder and I'm staying in his old house, which he's now just using for storage). I'm nelgecting my son, not doing right by him, ect. He's never here to know and thank goodness, because I don't want him around! I'm a p.o.s. and pathetic because I can't keep the house perfectly clean. Well how the heck do keep a hoarder's storage place clean??? And FYI, a toddler lives here, there should be toys on the floor. These are things he tells me. In my opinion and experience, abusers want to make their victims feel guilty. At least with my father, I know he wants to make me feel guilty and bad about myself to make him feel better about himself. I know all of his emotional abuse is not the truth, so I ignore it. I'm not at fault, he's the pathetic one that abused his daughters and pets. I'm just one those things he used to relieve his anger or whatever feeling. I was an object to him, not a human being with feelings.

Anyway before I get lost in my words again, What I'm saying is abusers inflict guilt on us. And other people might say it's our fault as well. As children, we are weak to people with higher power and authority. All that is needed to abuse a child is coersion, they don't need force or violence if the child trusts the person or thinks they have to obey....I totally dissociated while I was writing this and don't remember what I've said. Well, when I have been revictimized, sometimes I fought back, but sometimes I went back into little girl mode and fear and coersion was all that was needed to abuse me.