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Originally Posted by isadora
Thanks for the advice.  i can say my bf is very jealous but he has never treated me bad. Three time he accuse me that i was flirting with his best friend and cousin and i wasn't. When we go out i cant even stare at nobody cause he might think im staring at the guys. Sometimes i get really stress out  he has been a great boyfriend i cant complain. Thanks again for the advice ) |
Dear Isadora,
I think you may be a bit confused about him being a great boyfriend. A great boyfriend does not accuse you of flirting. A great boyfriend is not very jealous. A great boyfriend doesn't make it so you can't "look" at anyone without being accused of staring at guys.
A great boyfriend discusses what is bothering him, listens to your answers and takes them to heart. A great boyfriend doesn't try to control you or make you anxious or worried about who you are looking at. A great boyfriend doesn't expect you to do all the work and changing in the relationship. A great boyfriend doesn't expect you to make him happy and do his bidding.
Maybe you can sit and think about what you want from a great boyfriend. If you find that you have been the one to make all the changes in this relationship to "make him happy" or to soothe his jealousy, then this is definitely a one-sided relationship and you will grow weary of his never ending accusations. You will grow weary of not having any independence to be who you are and do what you want to do.
Of course, it's your choice to either stay with him or let him go. I'm not saying that this relationship can't be saved. What I am saying is that he needs to make some personal changes in order to not hurt you if he really cares about you. It's a two way street and effort needs to come from both sides
Take care Isadora and best of luck to you in your relationship!