Thanks for the honest explanation Rob. This is off topic a bit but it does relate to the practicality of a relationship. I've been married for 25 years but we had a major fallout 3 yrs ago - it's a long story but it involves his infidelity. He doesn't want a divorce but still is in the other relationship - of course I hate it. We live in a nice house and if I were to insist on divorce the assets would be split, plus we went through bankruptcy 6 months ago - there's no possibility of buying a smaller house. So I'm kind of stuck.

One positive thing is we have remained civil and respectful for ourselves and the kids sake. If we split we'll both have to rent and live in poverty - the kids would suffer financially and wouldn't see their father as much. So for now, we're taking the PRACTICALITY road - I understand what you're saying about that. Not all relationships are like prince charming and the princess where they're madly in love.

So for now I'm accepting the best circumstance available for me and my girls. Yes if I won the lottery I would buy my own house and officially divorce, but I would still be on good terms for my childrens sake. I don't think you're a bad person and your intentions seem honest. If you like someone - do you feel attached to them? Would you feel sadness if it didn't work out? Good luck Rob.