I wasnt trying to offend you, Shangrala. Im simply saying that communication is a two-way street and when it comes to that, it is hardly ever only one persons fault. While I may not agree with some of the ways my bf chooses to communicate, it is still on me to look at what I am doing to not understand him. Just like it is on him to figure out why he cant get through or understand what you are saying. I would suggest some counseling to get back to the basics of what you are both really trying to say here because it doesnt sound like money is the true issue. And if he really is just an overall negative person then maybe you need to ask yourself if you still want to work on it.