MamaJen, when I do something I'm afraid isn't "right" I am able to tell my husband and work on it by remembering his comment, "We're on the same side". He's a teammate! You're in this (marriage) together! Let him help you. And if he complains or is unpleasant, it's just words, keep telling him to help you, not criticize or punish you as he is not your boss or father, but your partner!