Inappropriate. My sentiments exactly.

Believe me, I have tried the role reversal. I went as far as to write up a fictional "chat" between me and some made up girl from my city, basically the exact same (just worded slightly different) as one of her said conversations w/this guy.

She saw nothing wrong with the scenario.

Now... don't get me wrong, she's not the type that would "cheat". I trust her with my heart and my life.

However, the conversation that took place between my fiancée and this guy, made me uncomfortable, ergo I expressed what I felt.

I personally would never talk this way to another person, just my fiancée. Between her and I, in my possibly biased opinion, is the only place that her sexual preferences and mine should be thought of, let alone discussed.

Either way, after all was said and done, I declined to go meet this person.

I let my fiancée know that if she felt she wanted or needed to go meet this guy, she is more than welcome.

Another thing, someone mentioned that I may be afraid of losing her to another man? No. If that was the case, I wouldn't be so eager to marry her. She is a remarkable person and we're very much in love.

Doesn't mean we wont frustrate each other every now and again!

Thanks for all of the replies, they've been helpful!