*Trigger Warning* Do not read any further if you are triggered by domestic violence.

Hi angie1979, first of all, I'm really sorry you are in this situation with your boyfriend. That being said, I think you should be afraid of the possibility of your boyfriend hitting you if he hits his mother. He has some serious anger issues and probably a whole lot more. Take it from me, a mother that has been hit, punched, kicked, pushed down the stairs by her own son. He is 22 now and has been physically absusive since he was 9 or 10. My biggest fear is that he will hurt one of his girlfriends. First of all, his father and I have never abused him, so that is not the reason for his past behavior. He does have some serious mental health issues that he refuses to get treatment for. We tried numerous times to get him into different treatment programs. Everyone failed because he would not talk to anyone. We had a few different therapists come to our house from a few different mental health programs. He refused to even talk to either of them. Both were women. First one he scratched her car with a rock, we had to pay for the new paint job. Second he threatened to slit her throat if she didn't leave him alone. He's been in and out of treatment programs without much success. He's had a few serious relationships which ended badly. Neither of his last two girlfriends would put up with his $hit. I don't know if he's ever hit either of his last girlfriends but I have seen him try to prevent one from leaving our house by blocking her way out in which case i've gotten involved and threatened by him to stay out of it. Now he has a new girlfriend. While she was at my house my son threatened to "punch me and hurt me real bad" if I didn't shut up along with calling me a few choice names. I said to her, "see how he treats his own mother? He will treat you the same way eventually." Out of nowhere he started to treat her like garbage and she doesn't understand why. They have argued at my house and he's acted very mean twards her for no reason and she once again doesn't understand why. We've told her to get away from him and stay away from him before he hurts her and offered to take her home. She refuses to stay away. I don't understand. She's a very sweet girl. I honestly don't see what these girls find in him. He hasn't hit her yet that I'm aware of but he has taken her cell phone from her and wouldn't give it back. She's told my husband she's never experienced anything like this in her life. (she's young) I've told her he has some serious problems and if she was smart she would stay away. She won't listen. I'm afraid he will eventually hurt her.

I'm sorry if it seems I highjacked your thread angie but I wanted you to know there is probably alot more going on with your boyfriend than you know and I think it would be in your best interest to get out while you have the chance before he does something to you. As for rambling, I'm also sorry for saying all I've said but I've been needing to get this off my chest. I hope I didn't upset anyone.

Be well and take care,
bl