I'm so sorry this happened to you and you are continuing with such pain, AtreyuFreak. I think incest is no different...incest can hurt someone so, so deeply...and not only that...it really shakes their idea of reality...because we form reality and trust and identity early in life. Incest like what your brother did could make someone just have no faith in humanity at all. Stranger rape can certainly do that too...but when someone hurts you so profoundly and they are supposed to LOVE you and you are just part of them and they are your family, ugh.
I get so angry about incest because it can make people feel broken in their very core and not-fixable. It's one of the cruelest crimes I can imagine and it can really destroy a person's very spirit, hope and existence and make them empty and sad for their whole lives. Sometimes I think incest makes it impossible for the victim to ever be happy or ever ever let their guard down and feel real joy. It's a lifetime crime. I don't mean to be harsh but incest means the victim never has a safe place. there is no safety in the world for a victim of incest. Trying to imagine a 'safe place' to go in my head is a joke. There is no safety. it's all dark.
Sorry to be bleak. guess it was a little triggery.