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Originally Posted by Sameera
Well, I can honestly say that the situation is beyond my realm of experience. I don't even have any half way decent ideas that might help. I am fully perplexed at this point.
Either she has some slightly outside the box ideas on relationships, some odd notions on commitment, or well, I have no idea to be honest.
I would think that if she were really doing something bad she wouldn't be open about it and you have already said that you don't believe that to be the case.
The only thing I can figure is that her and your ideas on relationship norms are a bit different.
I am sorry, I can't offer any real advice, I just hope that someone else here proves to be much wiser about this sort of thing.
I hope things work out well.
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Well, I thank you for your replies and your help. Her views are a bit distorted. A bit of history, her father killed himself when she was 5. Her mother burned through 3 husbands and my fiancee was there w/her for them all.
My parents were together my entire childhood and they're still happily married today. Almost 40 years now!
The most important fact is: she's young. She's 25; I'm 30. She's never been in a long term relationship, prior to dating me. We've been together now for 4.5 years.
Still, I was never taught how a relationship should be. I just saw how my parents were, how my older siblings were w/their significant others. How my friends were with their significant others.
So If I learned from my experiences i'm sure she did the same, which means she was brought up very differently than I.
Whenever we have an issues though, which is few and far between, we do manage to get through them in one piece. Our communication skills have been improving over the years
