Took you about five minutes to tie your shoes this morning and they are slip on shoes...am I right? Sounds like you are taking steps to work on you and your marriage. Think it is normal to have some fear. If it helps any, the situation did not pop up over night and will take time to resolve. Maybe baby steps right now will help. Take some deep breaths, take it easy on yourself, use caution when handling computer print outs. Working with a therapist right now is good because it will help you get your needs met in areas you think your wife can't be supportive of right now. Keep posting...specifics help.