Hello AkAngel

I think I understand what you are saying. At times I feel the same way but at other times I want sex. It depends most on my energy level.

I learned how to pleasure my partner and him, me without sex. Like having foreplay for awhile and mutual pleasure without "traditional" sex. Talk to your partner. It can be fun. Buy some sex toys for each of you and use them together and show each other what feels good.

You can share fantasies. Create mood with music or whatever appeals to your sensual side.

Be creative and have fun.