Thank you all for your comments.

Ripley: Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in this...and there must have been some courage on your part to self-identify so I wouldn't be standing out there alone.

Rhapsody: I looked up sexual anorexia and while I found it interesting, I think I can rule it out. In the description, the article said, "...fear of intimacy to the point that the person has severe anxiety surrounding sex with emotional content." I have no fear or anxiety around sex (I just have almost no drive and find it a mild nuisance) at all but more importantly the article expounded upon it's discussion regarding relationships with emotional content to say, "...but more accurately fit the definition of sexual anorexic in that they seem to lack the ability to have a relationship of a sexual nature beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience." I find no allure in a paid for or anonymous experience. I have never had any desire to sleep with anyone for whom I did not have feelings.

Yoda: Well, when the relationship turns sexual I will certainly use everything I can. My partner and my communication about any and all things, including sex, is second to none. She is my best friend and you know those things you don't even tell your best friend? We tell each other those too.

I suspect that fear of intimacy is going to be a recurring theme as people try to help me answer my question, but one I don't feel that I have any problems with. However, it is possible that it is my definition of intimacy is different than yours - or that it should be in order to be accurate. Would someone mind definnig it for me so I can make sure we are on the same page? I know I can look it up myself, but I'm wondering if there is a chance that there is a special psychological use that I'm missing.

In my opinion it is the depth of our intimacy that I love the most about our relationship. Whether we are talking about our abuse issues as children or the weather, our conversation flows as easily, in fact more easily, than if we were having the conversation alone in our heads - it is safer and more enjoyable with both of us.

I do appreciate the replies, I've tried to explain a little better because I left a good deal out of the original post - please be patient.