I agree - when you've tried to get validation and they won't/can't give it too you, then you need to give it to yourself. When I feel frustrated for something done wrong to me and I can't get understanding or an apology - I think to myself - that person/people will get what they deserve when they die. They will feel all the pain they caused you - that's what I believe. I know it sounds kind of angry, but it gives me peace thinking this way. Live the best life you can, so they can see, THEY didn't hold you back or ruin your life. Don't let their non-recognition hurt you anymore. Their time will come one day.