You guys are so insightful. I learned years ago just to shut up with my hubby. But sometimes its so draining when he starts getting paranoid I want to shake him and I have told him some of those general comments. Sometimes I just don't get it. But listening to you guys helps me see him better. I wish he would get on this site but he calls it bs. Is it awful as much as I love him sometimes I tuely despise him? It makes me sick sometimes that I have to leave with the kids cause he's in one of those moods. (Just for a little bit to give him space not like pack and leave) Does anyone have a partner that can give me tips. I'm not giving up I can't I just don't like how he makes me feel. I hope you guys aren't offended by these comments. I know its not his fault he's this way I just am having a hard time coping.