Hi, yes - I am 35. And I feel more mature than before too. But I never thought that I d be on my own at 35. I am really hurting about that. As I was engaged and my fiance, who was my soul mate and the love of my life, was not prepared to set a wedding date and became terribly abusive - I left. And left 7 years and loads of hopes and sharing. I am starting from scratch in every sense. Also financially. But I gained alot of experience and insight. Hopefully that will stand me in good stead when I meet new people. And I hope you feel the same. That you have learnt from your past. I think this is the key.

As for the dating sites: its such a long shot... isnt it... Although I know people who met their life long partner on a dating site. So you never know... And I would say its a positive way to create chances.

I am turned off by seeing those naked pics too. It so sad isnt it - that someone feels the need to put a chest revealing picture and exposing their muscly arms... I immediately ignore them and move to the next. I see them as empty, rude, probably narcssistic males - and I dont want anything to do with people like that!

Just stick to your boundries and what makes you happy. I tend to see it as a people watching exercise - to see whats out there and if there is nice interesting communication then I might agree to meet. Who knows. Maybe it will happen and maybe it wont. Just be true to what you are looking for and dont forget your worth! There are a lot of idiots on it so make sure you are careful.

I had all the hope in the world regarding my ex. I believed in him. Now I am channeling my belief and hopes to myself.

Hugs to you Marjan. xxx