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May 01, 2010, 02:20 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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(((((Peaches)))))
Perna wrote almost exactly what I would have wrote to you.
I think you're looking for answers and this is okay. Your Hubby had a good point, that she may not allow herself to remember...for her own protection of herself, but I don't think you did anything wrong.
I completely understand needing and wanting that validation. Your abuser has passed on, and this woman is one of a couple it sounds like that may have shared in similar experiences. It's only natural to want to reach out for some sense of validation and closure.
I'm glad that she wants you to call her. Hang in there. It may have been a shock to her to hear from you, and she may not have been ready, at that moment, to discuss the issue. She may have needed a day or two to get right with herself and prepare herself to go back down this memory lane.
Just remember to take care of you. These type of conversations with friends, although they seem like they can help, can often times make wounds deeper. 
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