I was molested by my brother between 8-12 yrs old. I did not come out with it until I was 30 and in therapy. From my mother (stay at home mom), it was denial and where was she when this was going on. From my sister, "it was you are a liar". My mom called my brother and surprise, he admitted it but said it was because he wanted to make sure he wasn't gay! During the next 20 yrs, it was not talked about and if it was; it was my fault in some way. My brother's wife decided it was my fault because I enticed him! It has taken me 40 yrs to realize that I had a dysfunctional family and no, it was not my fault! My brother (I haven't spoken with him til after my mother's suicide last year) has been diagnosed bi polar. My sister is severely depressed (another family member I have no interaction with). I had to let go of my family in order for myself to begin to heal and that has been traumatic in it's own right. I had to weigh the my options of letting my family go or losing my mind. It was not an easy decision but after my mother died, it was a do or die situation. I have had the good fortune to get hold of a good t and she helped me to figure out what was normal and what was the best way to choose my direction in my life. I can't have it all but I can have some peace and pleasure for the rest of my years. In no way do I recommend my way as the right way but I am saying there is hope for all of us that continue to research and look for solutions for what ails us. I will think of you every day and send you loving thoughts.